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<rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><atom:link rel="hub" href="http://tumblr.superfeedr.com/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"/><description>a tumblr by Emily Suess www.emilysuess.com</description><title>I write</title><generator>Tumblr (3.0; @emilysuess)</generator><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/</link><item><title>Self-Publishing Reality Check: You're No Guy | Suess's Pieces</title><description>&lt;a href="http://blog.emilysuess.com/self-publishing-reality-check-youre-no-guy/"&gt;Self-Publishing Reality Check: You're No Guy | Suess's Pieces&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;Thinking about Guy Kawasaki’s self-publishing success and recent book, APE: Author, Publisher, Entrepreneur—How to Publish a Book.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/53043670333</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/53043670333</guid><pubDate>Sat, 15 Jun 2013 15:30:46 -0400</pubDate><category>writing</category><category>self-publishing</category><category>guy kawasaki</category></item><item><title>sosoulfull:

iCreate to Live. #writers #writing #artists...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/b5adfd3186ce0e2e492c15a648c92e7c/tumblr_mobwhmlZTl1qzh3jio1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://sosoulfull.tumblr.com/post/52861113329/icreate-to-live-writers-writing-artists" target="_blank"&gt;sosoulfull&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;iCreate to Live. #writers #writing #artists #wordsmith #poetry #lyrics #creativityrulestheday&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52965343939</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52965343939</guid><pubDate>Fri, 14 Jun 2013 15:30:44 -0400</pubDate><category>creativity</category><category>writing</category></item><item><title>Waitress: do you have any questions about the menu?&#13;</title><description>Waitress: do you have any questions about the menu?&lt;br /&gt;&#13;
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Me: what kind of font is this?</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52886864135</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52886864135</guid><pubDate>Thu, 13 Jun 2013 15:30:44 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/083a365acf87f3df407eaf1ac0d52408/tumblr_mo8a6mhs6F1rwdpqfo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52703268513</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52703268513</guid><pubDate>Tue, 11 Jun 2013 08:18:21 -0400</pubDate><category>writing</category><category>content marketing</category><category>copywriting</category></item><item><title>Can’t find the words he’s looking for…INVENTS...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/e111118e600ceff60de37c2b9be647aa/tumblr_mo4tacbKpT1rwdpqfo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Can’t find the words he’s looking for…INVENTS THEM.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52565932721</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52565932721</guid><pubDate>Sun, 09 Jun 2013 15:30:49 -0400</pubDate><category>writing</category><category>shakespeare</category></item><item><title>WATCH: Famous Author Angrily Defends Publishers And Bookstores</title><description>&lt;a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/05/john-green-self-publishing_n_3390143.html"&gt;WATCH: Famous Author Angrily Defends Publishers And Bookstores&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;John Green is a cult author with more than 1.5 million Twitter followers, a hugely popular Tumblr page, and more than a million YouTube subscribers for the channel he shares with his brother. He headlined Carnegie Hall this year, and we featured his latest book The Fault In Our Stars for a month in our Book Club, which has been on the New York Times Young Adult Bestseller List for more than a year.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52481329898</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52481329898</guid><pubDate>Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:30:44 -0400</pubDate><category>writing</category><category>publishing</category><category>john green</category></item><item><title>Writing a Book? Set Goals and Stay Motivated. | Suess's Pieces</title><description>&lt;a href="http://blog.emilysuess.com/writing-a-book-set-goals-and-stay-motivated/"&gt;Writing a Book? Set Goals and Stay Motivated. | Suess's Pieces&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;
&lt;div&gt;Stuck on that WIP? Stacy Ennis, book coach and editor, gives authors tips on setting goals and staying motivated in this Writers’ Week 2012 guest post.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52398362640</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52398362640</guid><pubDate>Fri, 07 Jun 2013 15:30:32 -0400</pubDate><category>writing</category></item><item><title>quotesoncomics:

Make it on the bad days, make it on the good...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/253caf4805708c65216a92f0cce0b167/tumblr_mnid7xQzWL1s71wepo2_r1_500.png"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://quotesoncomics.tumblr.com/post/51555099386/make-it-on-the-bad-days-make-it-on-the-good-days" target="_blank"&gt;quotesoncomics&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.quotesoncomics.com/2013/05/27/neil-gaiman-ii-2/" target="_blank"&gt;Make it on the bad days, make it on the good days.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52318361829</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52318361829</guid><pubDate>Thu, 06 Jun 2013 15:30:30 -0400</pubDate><category>writing quote</category><category>neil gaiman</category></item><item><title>Photo</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/d8e2b55c3a3fe36552621d4dc1fc4ed0/tumblr_mnip2z9SGw1rohwgyo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52238719657</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52238719657</guid><pubDate>Wed, 05 Jun 2013 15:30:56 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>"you own everything that happened to you. tell your stories. if people wanted you to write warmly..."</title><description>“you own everything that happened to you. tell your stories. if people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt;anne lamott (via &lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://waitingwatching.tumblr.com/" target="_blank"&gt;waitingwatching&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52157924795</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52157924795</guid><pubDate>Tue, 04 Jun 2013 15:30:30 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>Author Solutions Sued For Deceptive Practices</title><description>&lt;a href="http://blog.emilysuess.com/f-a-author-solutions-sued-for-deceptive-practices/"&gt;Author Solutions Sued For Deceptive Practices&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;&lt;span&gt;Three authors have filed suit against self-publishing service provider Author Solutions, and its parent company Penguin.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52075705096</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/52075705096</guid><pubDate>Mon, 03 Jun 2013 15:30:50 -0400</pubDate><category>self-publishing</category><category>writing</category></item><item><title>How I Found My Editor</title><description>&lt;a href="http://blog.emilysuess.com/how-i-found-my-editor/"&gt;How I Found My Editor&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;The Self-Publishing Services directory matches writers with the editing and publishing professionals they need. This is Ellis Shuman’s success story.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51991955136</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51991955136</guid><pubDate>Sun, 02 Jun 2013 15:30:40 -0400</pubDate><category>writing</category><category>editing</category></item><item><title>"Don’t be a writer; be writing."</title><description>““Don’t be a writer; be writing.””&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt; William Faulkner (via &lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://awritersinspirations.tumblr.com/" target="_blank"&gt;awritersinspirations&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51903892909</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51903892909</guid><pubDate>Sat, 01 Jun 2013 15:30:37 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>"I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by."</title><description>“I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.”&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt;Douglas Adams (via &lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://fuckyeahwritelife.tumblr.com/" target="_blank"&gt;fuckyeahwritelife&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51821500190</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51821500190</guid><pubDate>Fri, 31 May 2013 15:30:48 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>"If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have the time (or the tools) to write. Simple as that."</title><description>“If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have the time (or the tools) to write. Simple as that.”&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt;Stephen King (via &lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://fuckyeahwritelife.tumblr.com/" target="_blank"&gt;fuckyeahwritelife&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51742019704</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51742019704</guid><pubDate>Thu, 30 May 2013 15:30:34 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>ABCs of Copywriting: Catalog Copy</title><description>&lt;a href="http://www.emilysuess.com/copywriting-catalog-copy/"&gt;ABCs of Copywriting: Catalog Copy&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;Catalog copywriting takes a little practice. Find out how to write better catalog copy and boost your sales.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51660722100</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51660722100</guid><pubDate>Wed, 29 May 2013 15:30:52 -0400</pubDate><category>copywriting</category></item><item><title>The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'</title><description>&lt;a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/the-problem-with-boys-will-be-boys_b_3186555.html"&gt;The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8trsDPpAI5E" target="_blank"&gt;Invasion of AstroMonster&lt;/a&gt;.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“You know! Boys will be boys!” &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“He’s just going through a phase!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;She built a &lt;a href="http://unwinona.tumblr.com/post/30861660109/i-debated-whether-or-not-to-share-this-story" target="_blank"&gt;beautiful, glittery castle&lt;/a&gt; in a public space.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;It was so &lt;a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/20/slutwalk-united-states-city_n_851725.html" target="_blank"&gt;tempting&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;He just couldn’t &lt;a href="http://www.secasa.com.au/sections/crisis-centre/common-beliefs-about-rape/" target="_blank"&gt;control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;She &lt;a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Prevent-a-Potential-Rape" target="_blank"&gt;had to keep her building safe&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a &lt;a href="http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2012/08/19/712251/how-todd-akin-and-paul-ryan-partnered-to-redefine-rape/" target="_blank"&gt;big fuss when he knocked it down&lt;/a&gt;. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;His &lt;a href="http://msmagazine.com/blog/blog/2011/05/02/25-facts-about-rape-in-america/" target="_blank"&gt;desire&lt;/a&gt; — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Maybe she “&lt;a href="http://azdailysun.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/article_0aa8be56-f7a3-11e1-b804-0019bb2963f4.html" target="_blank"&gt;shouldn’t have gone to preschool&lt;/a&gt;” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “&lt;a href="http://canyourelate.org/2011/05/24/rape-prevention-tips/" target="_blank"&gt;don’t rape.&lt;/a&gt;”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Not &lt;em&gt;once&lt;/em&gt; did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning.  How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it &lt;em&gt;his&lt;/em&gt; mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There was a third child. He was &lt;em&gt;really smart&lt;/em&gt;. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but &lt;em&gt;only&lt;/em&gt; after she was done building it and &lt;em&gt;said it was OK&lt;/em&gt;. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, &lt;a href="http://www.washingtonian.com/articles/people/george-huguely-and-yeardley-love-love-death-and-lacrosse/" target="_hplink"&gt;mad at an ex-girlfriend&lt;/a&gt; who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The “&lt;a href="http://www.lfcc.on.ca/HCT_SWASM_4.html" target="_hplink"&gt;overarching attitudinal characteristic&lt;/a&gt;” of abusive men is entitlement.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51607602746</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51607602746</guid><pubDate>Tue, 28 May 2013 21:45:55 -0400</pubDate></item><item><title>3 Ways Your Ridiculous Deadline Taints Your Copywriter Pool</title><description>&lt;a href="http://www.emilysuess.com/3-ways-your-ridiculous-deadline-taints-the-copywriter-pool/"&gt;3 Ways Your Ridiculous Deadline Taints Your Copywriter Pool&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;
&lt;div&gt;Are you setting ridiculous deadlines for your copywriter? That can taint your talent pool in three big ways.&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51559193839</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51559193839</guid><pubDate>Tue, 28 May 2013 10:01:42 -0400</pubDate><category>copywriter</category></item><item><title>What are you supposed to be writing today?</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/189b01c947e736089073b520b8322fd1/tumblr_mmwkyc1ynK1rwdpqfo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;What are you supposed to be writing today?&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51495039691</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51495039691</guid><pubDate>Mon, 27 May 2013 15:30:32 -0400</pubDate><category>writing</category></item><item><title>6 Simple Goals for Building Blog Traffic - Small Business Bonfire</title><description>&lt;a href="http://smallbusinessbonfire.com/goals-for-building-blog-traffic"&gt;6 Simple Goals for Building Blog Traffic - Small Business Bonfire&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="link_og_blockquote"&gt;Emily gives us six goals we should work toward if we want to build blog traffic effectively.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51412383419</link><guid>http://emilysuess.tumblr.com/post/51412383419</guid><pubDate>Sun, 26 May 2013 15:30:33 -0400</pubDate><category>blog</category><category>traffic</category></item></channel></rss>
